Having recently come back from India I thought my first blog on my spiritual journey would be about all the great places I saw when I was visiting there. But in light of certain events that have unfolded, that one will have to come a bit later. I’m much more concerned to spread the word about a new kind of threat for people looking for connection and answers on their spiritual path. This person is what I’d like to call the spiritual narcissist.
I never even knew what the word spiritual narcissist meant until a month ago when I realized I was face to face with one for a small period of time while away exploring spirituality, ashram and meditation centers in India. I’d also like to say before I start that India itself was absolutely wonderful, most of the people I met there were very kind and wonderful and this is not about India at all 🙂 As more and more people are interested in spiritual growth and looking outside for guidance and help in what direction to take in doing so, I feel the need to talk about how this can go awry when exposed to the wrong person which happened to myself and a group of friends recently.
What is a spiritual narcissist? This type of person will claim they are here for a special purpose here on earth in this lifetime and have a direct connection to God or Source. (newsflash – we all have a special purpose here on earth and we are all connected to source, we just don’t always believe it)
This type of person will also claim that they can put you on the fast track to enlightenment, and while there may be some lightbulb moments that go off when meditating or healing a trauma, no one can speed up your growth for you. Growth is done through experiences, trial and error, making mistakes and learning from them, and emotional breakthroughs. Anyone who says they can get you closer to enlightenment “faster” is a liar.
This type of person will also claim because they may seem to have psychic abilities that this means they are an enlightened being. Everyone has this ability, some have worked on it more than others however being psychic is never about how conscious you are. As your consciousness grows and you become more self-aware, you will become more intuitive however I know many people who are psychic that are seemingly unconscious. They will also tell you what you should do with your life, how you should live it, who’s good for you and who’s not good for you, they will also try to point out bad things about other people that are simply not true and place doubt in your mind to remove you from close friends.
This type of person will only offer one path to help you…which is their path and will put down anything else you say or bring up in conversation by saying: you need to be careful with others teachings, or I know what’s best for you in your situation. (the only person who knows what’s best for YOU in every situation is YOU!) A true spiritual teacher knows that there are many paths in learning, in fact the more the better. In following one person it puts you in a box which will actually stunt your growth.
This type of person can be extremely charming and uses techniques like love bombing or shaming to make their target feel extreme love or extreme shame. Some examples of love bombing I saw and heard firsthand many times used on many different people were: we have known each other before, we have been soul mates in other lifetimes, you are so special to me, excessive attention etc. This is when the narcissist is grooming you to follow them and can also include cording techniques which can send an energy of love to the other person. You feel special as no one pays attention to you in this way and it feels good and they try to fill any void you may have. They usually prey on empaths and people in vulnerable moments or people who have big hearts as they tend to fall for this kind of behaviour easily. After watching this person say the same lines over and over again to many different people it gets old very fast, and while I am a believer in soul connections, I could plainly see this person was not being authentic at all. Using the shaming technique is equally effective as this type of person will make you feel ashamed of your beliefs and try to make you want to change them.
And finally we have gaslighting, this is when as you get to know this person and you begin to see inconsistencies, lies, them evading answering your questions etc., and you start to question or call them out on it. Once they feel you are not under their control they immediately will start to criticize you insult you or start to spread negative truth about you and create self-doubt and doubt with others if in a group setting. They will also cut off relationships with anyone at a moments notice who does not follow what they say, and will defend their behaviour while smearing the name of that person.
There are probably more examples of a spiritual narcissist out there, I have picked the ones I’ve witnessed first hand and can see how damaging it is when used on people in a very short period of time. If you are faced with a situation or scenario like any of the above examples – run don’t walk away! A true spiritual teacher is humble, patient and understanding and is emotionally stable as he/she no longer is driven by ego and understands that everyone is at their own step on their path. Lastly any true spiritual teacher will not try to coerce and shame people into spending money on anything and will not want to keep you following them around forever. The art of spiritual teaching is to set people free, follow their spirit and explore life…not keep them bound to one thing!
Id love to hear your comments if you’ve had similar experiences …
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Life this 💕💕
When one discovers spirit the negativity leaves being replaced with love. You do not need to sit cross legged or use incense or any of that, no crystal ball. It’s more of an understanding. (From the bible, Let me tell you the truth, unless you become like a child you shall never enter the kingdom). Children have imaginations, you need to use your imagination to connect with spirit, just close your eyes, anywhere anytime and watch the light. You will see light more as you practice, swirling and dancing and it is always moving and changing, eventually you can see shapes of people and animals etc. What one begins to see is what people see in a near death experience. When ever you read about spirit or meditation these images are referred to, this is your connection to spirit, it’s life changing. Energy, it’s all energy. Every time you tug on a leaf in nature the whole universe feels it. We are all connected. We drink the very same molecules of water that the dinosaurs once drank, you may have an atom in your lip that was once in cleopatras thigh, or an atom in your leg that was once in a dinosaur, we are energy, energy can never be more or never be less , budda lived many many lives as many different animals, as us too. Hope this all makes sense to you.
Do this, close your eyes in bed or on the couch and get lost in the light, it’s so simple and people spend a lifetime searching for this, it’s an understanding, it’s so simple people can’t wrap their head around it, you will have out of body experiences it’s all the yogis do to meditate, it’s your inner universe, the third eye, this is activating your pineal gland.
I don’t know how to explain this better, most people thing we are nuts when we try to explain this. No one bothers to tell you to just close your eyes and follow the light. If you need a jump start less on your eyes a little and watch, eventually you’ll get better at it and you’ll feel pure love and joy. Sometimes I start laughing as I feel so light and spirit will do this to you to. Cheers and Namaste 🙏
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Miss spell in the above…… press on the eyes, not …. less on the eyes
Thank you Gary…i understand and appreciate your words ☺
Thank you, you described my (now ex) yoga teacher perfectly. Often I want to scream it from the rooftops what I experienced but I am forced to be silent because noone would believe me. I lost a whole community of friends because she told them bad (untrue) stories about me. Loving someone is not about saying “I love you” but about how you treat them. Being cranky and reactive, refusing to listen, and constantly putting someone down… I don’t know why I put up with this behaviour for so many years??? Constantly tip-toe-ing around for fear of saying the wrong thing…it was so stressful but I thought i needed her teaching. I wish I could stop thinking about her but I am so angry that she gets away with this behaviour and still has hundreds of followers who adore her, while she messes with their heads and projects her own negativity onto them.
That’s horrible Melanie…I could not believe it when I saw the behaviour how people were falling for it so easily…just know it’s true for yourself…I had similar thing happen after writing this blog where some people didn’t want to believe he was a bad person…good luck to you and make sure you pour all of that love into yourself and build yourself back up 💖